I suppose that as humans, we like to keep things to ourselves. However, when we think these same thoughts, we unintentionally conjure up loneliness and could even begin to feel like a burden to ourselves.
Although there is more public awareness of mental illness than ever before, there is also greater social pressure than ever before to be happy. Although we hear the phrase “It’s okay to not be okay” frequently, many of us find it difficult to put this advice into practice. Nobody enjoys “not being okay”. It’s a natural human tendency to strive for improvement, to make positive changes, and to get better. We are aware that a few days in bed, some vitamins, a lot of drinks, and some medication can help us recover from a cold. But what happens when we experience prolonged emotional suffering that cannot be immediately resolved? How do we choose to handle it?
Why do we still subject ourselves to this suffering when we are fully aware that we are so much more than just a hasty judgement made by our thoughts while they are in a state of confusion and overpowering emotions? Don’t reduce yourself to a snap decision. A flower doesn’t bloom right away. Time; attention; sun, rain, and space. These are only a few of the elements that nature needs to maintain its beauty. Why then do you do nothing for yourself?
The most potent tool we have is our thinking. Always, it comes down to how we see ourselves. Sometimes the suffering makes things a little fuzzy, making it difficult for us to see the courage and fortitude we possess. To reveal the meticulous road in front of us, sometimes we need to share and illuminate the weight and clear our perspective. The journey may seem difficult or drawn out, but all those hours spent battling with yourself have strengthened your ability to get through obstacles. It’s acceptable to seek assistance. It’s ok to discuss it with someone. Writing down everything is OK. It’s acceptable to temporarily lose oneself.
It’s acceptable to desire to face the world alone. However, it is never acceptable to stand by as you sink into a chasm.
You are much more powerful than you realise. I guess your vision is a little fuzzy right now, like I stated. Trust the process, trust yourself, and seek for assistance when necessary to prevent yourself from being overwhelmed. You’ll be fine, and if the gloom of your thoughts appears to hang around for too long, you can always chat to me.
You see, when we experience happiness, it is ours to enjoy. So, when we experience grief, we also possess that feeling. Therefore, perhaps what we should do is embrace them rather than rush to overcome them. Because if we embrace them, we can begin to understand that experiencing low periods is a necessary component of leading a typical and balanced life.
We wouldn’t appreciate the high points as much without the low points. And I’ve discovered that even when they appear to endure forever, challenging times do pass.
And every time I’ve come out the other side, I’ve felt wiser because it gives me a chance to reassess what I want, how I’m going to get there, and who I want to travel with me. It is crucial, in my opinion, that we learn to allow ourselves the space to experience sadness and let time work its healing magic rather than putting pressure on ourselves to “figure it all out instantly.” And although it may sound cliché, after going through difficult times, you actually emerge stronger, with a greater understanding of who you are, and naturally recover more quickly the next time it happens.